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		<title>“To see what is in front of one’s nose needs a constant struggle.” George Orwell</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Metaphors can be traps. We can end up taking them too literally. The point of a metaphor is to help us see things more clearly (&#8220;time slips through our hands like sand&#8221; helps us connect something intangible and abstract, like time, to a physical experience, like sand trickling through our fingers). But sometimes metaphors mislead, [...]
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img src="http://www.wildmind.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Orwell1-255x354.jpg" alt="" title="Orwell" width="255" height="354" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-16114" />Metaphors can be traps. We can end up taking them too literally. The point of a metaphor is to help us see things more clearly (&#8220;time slips through our hands like sand&#8221; helps us connect something intangible and abstract, like time, to a physical experience, like sand trickling through our fingers). But sometimes metaphors mislead, and make it harder to see things clearly. The image of the path is one of those metaphors that can potentially trap and mislead us.</p>
<p>The Buddha himself used the image of his teaching being a path. One of his key teachings is the Eightfold <em>Path</em> (a??ha?gika magga), and in a famous teaching he explained that he was like an explorer who had beaten a path to an ancient city that had been lost in the jungle, and has come back to lead others along the path to see his discovery for themselves. It&#8217;s a venerable image. The problem isn&#8217;t the image itself, but how we relate to it.</p>
<h3>How long is this path?</h3>
<p>The thing that strikes me as a problem with the path metaphor could be expressed in a question: how long do we think the path is?</p>
<p>In the Buddha&#8217;s day, people would often get enlightened very quickly. In some cases they just had to hear a phrase, and insight would arise. In some cases it would take longer &#8212; perhaps some years of practice. But it was doable. Even people living householder lifestyles would get enlightened without too much difficulty. I&#8217;m not aware of examples of householders getting enlightened immediately, but there were, according to the scriptures, thousands of lay followers who attained the first level of enlightenment, and many hundreds who were just short of full awakening. The path was short. In the case of those who got enlightened immediately, it wasn&#8217;t so such a path as a single step.</p>
<p>The later Mah?y?na teachings tended to elevate enlightenment in order to glorify the Buddha&#8217;s attainment and inspire faith. The bigger his attainment, the greater the spiritual hero we was, right? And the greater a spiritual hero he was, the more inspiring he was? The problem was that they started talking in terms of the path to awakening stretching over an uncountable number of lifetimes. Sure, this was meant to inspire us, but if you believe enlightenment is unattainable in this very lifetime, what&#8217;s the chance that it&#8217;s actually going to happen? If you think it&#8217;s going to take thousands of lifetimes to get enlightened, it&#8217;s probably not going to happen to you in this life. Not next year. And certainly not right now, in this very moment.</p>
<h3>An alternative to the &#8220;path&#8221; metaphor</h3>
<p>So what&#8217;s the alternative to thinking of enlightenment as being at the end of a long, long path? You could think of it as being at the end of a short path: that&#8217;s pretty much what the Buddha seemed to have in mind. Or you use a different metaphor, and think of awakening as being right here, right now, but you&#8217;re not seeing it because you&#8217;re looking at your experience the wrong way. It&#8217;s like one of those &#8220;Magic Eye&#8221; 3D pictures from the 1990s that looks like a mess of squiggles and images fragments, until you let your eyes refocus in just the right way, and suddenly there&#8217;s a stereoscopic image right there in front of you. In a way, the image has been there all along, but you weren&#8217;t looking in the right way. Maybe at certain points you didn&#8217;t believe that you could ever see the image. Maybe you started to doubt there was anything there. But if you persist then &#8212; boom! &#8212; there it is.</p>
<h3>Our spiritual cognitive distortions</h3>
<p>There are a couple of Buddhist teachings that I think relate to this metaphor of the image that&#8217;s right in front of us, but unseen. One of these is the &#8220;Four Vipall?sas.&#8221; The word vipall?sa means &#8220;inversion, perversion, derangement, corruption, distortion.&#8221; It&#8217;s similar to what psychologists nowadays call a &#8220;cognitive distortion.&#8221; These four vipall?sas &#8212; or &#8220;spiritual cognitive distortions&#8221; &#8212; are that we see things that are impermanent as being permanent, see things that are sources of pain as being sources of happiness, see things that are lacking in inherent selfhood as having inherent selfhood, and see things that are ugly as being attractive.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s the interesting thing: it&#8217;s not as if impermanence, for example, is hidden from us. We just don&#8217;t see it. It&#8217;s right in front of us, all the time, but our minds don&#8217;t seem to be equipped to notice it. In fact, I&#8217;ve noticed that Buddhists often like to talk about impermanence more than actually observe it.</p>
<p>So it&#8217;s happening right now. Anything you notice is changing. When you notice your body you may think &#8220;Oh, there&#8217;s my body&#8221; but actually all you&#8217;re noticing is an ever-changing pattern of sensation. There&#8217;s no &#8220;body&#8221; there that you can perceive. Right now you&#8217;re reading these words. What you&#8217;re seeing is constantly changing. What&#8217;s in your mind is constantly changing. Everything in your mind is constantly changing. Try looking for something in your experience that doesn&#8217;t change. Having any luck? You say that the coffee cup in front of you isn&#8217;t changing? But you don&#8217;t ever experience a &#8220;coffee cup.&#8221; You have sense impressions of a coffee cup, and those sense impressions are in constant flux. Your eyes are jittering around all the time, because the receptors in your retinas stop responding if they&#8217;re exposed to the same stimulus for more than a fraction of a second. If your eye was frozen in place you&#8217;d literally be blind. The only reason you can perceive anything is because of change &#8212; impermanence.</p>
<p>So change, non-self, etc., are there all the time. We just need to pay attention. Look. Look right now. Everything you&#8217;re experiencing is changing. Keep looking. Eventually, as with the Magic Eye pictures, you&#8217;ll see what&#8217;s been there all along.</p>
<h3>Not seeing the wood for the trees</h3>
<p>I said there were a couple of teachings relating to not seeing what&#8217;s in front of us. The vipall?sas constitute one such teaching. The third fetter of &#8220;s?labbata-par?m?sa,&#8221; usually translated as &#8220;dependence on rites and rituals,&#8221; is another. This is one of the three fetters that we break when we attain stream-entry, the first level of enlightenment. </p>
<p>The first fetter is straightforward &#8212; it&#8217;s when we no longer believe that we have a permanent, unchanging self. We keep observing that our experience is changing all the time, and eventually it clicks &#8212; that&#8217;s all there is. There&#8217;s just change. </p>
<p>The second fetter is doubt. Until we experience the breaking of the first fetter, there&#8217;s always some kind of doubt that it&#8217;s even possible. We may doubt that we can do it. (Sure, other people can see these Magic Eye pictures, but I can&#8217;t.) Or we may doubt that there&#8217;s a picture there. (&#8220;It&#8217;s a trick,&#8221; we say, as we stare hopelessly and the jumbled image.) Once we&#8217;ve seen that the separate and permanent self we&#8217;ve always taken for granted is an illusion, and once we&#8217;ve realized that it&#8217;s true that everything in our experience &#8212; everything! &#8212; is a constant flux, we feel a surge of confidence. We&#8217;ve stepped out of illusion, we know that the Buddha&#8217;s teaching is right, and we have confidence that further progress is possible. Actually, it&#8217;s inevitable.</p>
<p>But that third fetter &#8212; &#8220;dependence on rites and rituals&#8221; &#8212; what&#8217;s that got to do with anything? First it&#8217;s not a very good translation. &#8220;S?la&#8221; is ethics, and &#8220;vata&#8221; (the second part of s?labbata) is a religious duty, or observance, or spiritual practice. This is referring to the problem of our getting caught up in spiritual practices so that they become a hindrance to enlightenment, rather than a means to realizing enlightenment. </p>
<h3>Enlightenment is right here, right now</h3>
<p>One of the most striking aspects of the experience of stream entry is a feeling of <em>immediacy</em>. When we have that perceptual shift and realize that what we&#8217;ve thought of as our &#8220;self&#8221; (permanent, unchanging, separate) is nothing more than a constellation of constantly changing events, it also strikes us that this is &#8220;obvious.&#8221; It&#8217;s right in front of our nose. It&#8217;s been in front of our nose our whole lives. But we just haven&#8217;t noticed.</p>
<p>Even the spiritual practices (s?la and vata) that we&#8217;ve been engaged with have sometimes prevented us from seeing the truth. We&#8217;ve been talking about impermanence, but not looking at it. We&#8217;ve been studying the path rather than walking it. Sometimes perhaps we&#8217;ve been walking the path, but haven&#8217;t wanted to stray too far, because it&#8217;s safe staying with the known.</p>
<p>So I suggest that sometimes, at least, we forget about the metaphor of the path, and instead think of enlightenment as being right here, right now. It&#8217;s just a question of recognizing what&#8217;s really going on &#8212; of allowing ourselves to see the impermanence that permeates every one of our experiences. We just need to look, and keep looking, until we see the obvious that&#8217;s sitting right in front of our noses.</p>
<p><em>&#8220;To see what is in front of one&#8217;s nose needs a constant struggle&#8221; is from Orwell&#8217;s essay &#8220;In Front of Your Nose,&#8221; which was first published in the Tribune newspaper, London, March 22, 1946.</em></p>
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		<title>Whither flows the stream?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:11:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[At the source, at the very source are live streams. Through my body trickles air like birch sap. And the buzz of bees, the midsummer sun Ripple inside me and ripple above. At the source—living streams&#8230; I won&#8217;t ask where they flow. Only blend into the floating shadow of a tree, wrap myself in a [...]
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>At the source, at the very source are live streams.<br />
Through my body trickles air like birch sap.<br />
And the buzz of bees, the midsummer sun<br />
Ripple inside me and ripple above.</p>
<p>At the source—living streams&#8230;<br />
I won&#8217;t ask where they flow.<br />
Only blend into the floating shadow of a tree,<br />
wrap myself in a bird&#8217;s tremulous melody.</p>
<p>At the very source is a glow.<br />
I don&#8217;t ask whither flows the stream.<br />
At the deepest source is a glow.<br />
Through me ripple grasses and the sky,<br />
Birch trees and the midsummer sun.<br />
What am I in this eternal flow?</p>
<p>From <a href="http://www.lituanus.org/1992_4/92_4_01.htm">“Intermezzo,” by Janina Degutyt&#279;</a>, translated by Gra&#382;ina M. Slav&#279;nas</p>
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<p>Who doesn&#8217;t love rainbows? This is one I snapped a couple of weeks ago when my friend Dassini was over for a visit.</p>
<p>The rainbow can be used to investigate how we impose our divisive concepts on the unbroken world of flow and change. The spectrum of colors in the rainbow is a continuum, and yet we find that the mind skips over the intermediate colors in order to see only red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo, violet.</p>
<p> But Xenophanes only described three colors, and saw the rainbow as &quot;a cloud that is purple and red and yellow.&quot; Aristotle too saw the rainbow as three-colored, but in his case the colors were red, green, and purple, although he admitted that orange could sometimes be seen between red and green [Meteorologica III, 2. 371-372]. The tri-colored rainbow persisted for a long time in Europe, probably because of the correspondences that could be made between the three colors of the rainbow and the Holy Trinity. Milton, for example, described the rainbow as &quot;Conspicuous with three listed [i.e. striped] colours.&quot;</p>
<p> Sometimes four colors were described, and these could be correlated with the four elements. Newton originally described only five colors &#8212; red, yellow, green, blue and violet &#8212; and may have included orange and indigo in order to make a parallel with the musical scale. And there is evidence that when he did later describe the seven-colored rainbow, those colors did not correspond exactly to the modern red-orange-yellow-green-blue-indigo-violet version we know today. </p>
<p>In fact, the notion of the seven-colored rainbow is vanishing; the idea of indigo being in the rainbow is now often dropped, and so we&#8217;re back to the six-colored rainbow (which I suppose could be correlated with the Six Elements). But when I look closely at high-resolution photographs of rainbows I find that I can, with only a little effort to overcome my habitual division of the rainbow into seven colors, convince myself that I can see a dozen or more distinct bands. Perhaps in the future we&#8217;ll evolve specific words for those colors and have a decimal or duodecimal rainbow.</p>
<p>A rainbow is a continuity of color rather than separate bands of distinct hues &#8212; which is why our cultural conditioning can affect how many colors we see. It&#8217;s that underlying unity and continuity that I&#8217;d like to highlight, since it seems to point to something very real about our own situation. We too are part of a continuity of phenomena. We are currents in the great cycles of the physical elements. We are woven into the fabric of nature.</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A while back I received a request to answer some questions for a book on &#8220;surrender.&#8221; Here&#8217;s the first draft of my response:</p>
<p><strong>> 1. How would you define surrender? Who or what is one surrendering to, in<br />
> your opinion? God, Universe, Self, Soul, What Is, present moment&#8230;?</strong></p>
<p>Surrender is an important part of all spiritual practice. Ultimately it&#8217;s what we&#8217;re aiming to accomplish in practice. </p>
<p>What we&#8217;re surrendering to is the reality of impermanence and non-separateness. In reality, everything changes and nothing (including ourselves) is separate or self-contained. But we have deep-rooted assumptions that we exist separately from the rest of the world, that there is something in us (and others) that is permanent and static, and that happiness can be found outside of ourselves. We believe that happiness is to be found in external conditions, rather than in changing our relation to the external conditions in which we live &#8212; which is why two people can be in the same situation, with one of them happy and the other miserable. So our view of ourselves and of where happiness comes from is at odds with how things really are.</p>
<p>We&#8217;re left with the task of realigning our views with reality, and to do that we have to surrender those views, surrender the desires that those views give rise to, and surrender the actions to which those desires give birth. And we need to accept the reality of change, non-separateness, and that things &#8220;out there&#8221; can&#8217;t bring us lasting happiness.</p>
<p><strong>> 2. Is there a practice/methodology to surrender that one can follow that<br />
> does not cause suffering? I.e, some paths try to create madness so that<br />
> the ego surrenders. Is there a joyful methodology?</strong></p>
<p>Paradoxically, we have to put in a lot of effort in order to be able to surrender! The Buddha&#8217;s dying words were, &#8220;Strive diligently!&#8221;</p>
<p>To be able to let go we first need a mind that has enough focus, calm, and concentration to be able to notice the ways in which we presently don&#8217;t accept reality &#8212; the ways that we currently hold on. </p>
<p>A lot of the time we&#8217;re simply caught up in distracted thinking and feeling and not really paying attention to how we&#8217;re thinking and feeling. And a lot of the time we are caught up in the delusion that our unhappiness and happiness depend on things out there in the world. So we need to learn to slow down and pay attention. So, for example, when someone says something that pushes your buttons and an angry response arises, we need to become aware that it&#8217;s we who are becoming angry, and that the other person is not &#8220;making us&#8221; be angry. We need to &#8220;own&#8221; our anger and stop blaming the other person. We need to learn to notice the arising of an angry response at a very early stage &#8212; this comes with repeated practice &#8212; so that we can find a more creative way to respond to the words we&#8217;ve just heard. In this kind of way we can come to realize that there is no &#8220;self&#8221; to defend, and that defense is an unnecessary and counter-productive strategy for happiness. Instead we can simply acknowledge that we suffered when we heard the words spoken by the other person and communicate authentically with them, acknowledging both their point of view and what we ourselves think and feel.</p>
<p>I develop those qualities of paying attention and noticing what&#8217;s really going on by cultivating mindfulness in meditation &#8212; mainly by paying attention to the breath, and to investigating what&#8217;s going on when I&#8217;m not able to pay attention to the breath. The process of developing mindfulness can be challenging, but it&#8217;s also ultimately very satisfying. A concentrated mind is a joyful mind. But it does take a lot of work to develop mindfulness.</p>
<p>There are other practices that help us to develop the qualities necessary for surrender. If we have a basic attitude of distrust towards ourselves, others, or the world in general it&#8217;s going to be hard to surrender. We need to develop a sense of trust and confidence in ourselves, and in others, and in the wisdom of letting go. There are various meditation practices that can help here, such as the Development of Lovingkindness practice, which helps us to feel more at ease with ourselves, and to develop a sense of other people as beings who are fundamentally struggling to be happy. And there are various insight meditation practices that help us to observe impermanence and the non-separateness of the self. These practices, like mindfulness meditation, are both challenging and nourishing. There&#8217;s no escaping the pain of change, but also change brings its rewards.</p>
<p>Lastly, there are some meditation practices where the emphasis is less on doing and more on being receptive. These are practices of surrendering. There is sadhana, where we visualize a representation of reality in the form of a Buddha image, and where we let the compassion of the Buddha flow into us. And there are practices where we simply trust the mind&#8217;s basic goodness, letting the light of reality shine from within. In these kinds of practice we don&#8217;t do much but remain in a mindful state as best we can and let go into reality. But in order for these practices to be effective we have to have done a fair amount of work preparing the mind by developing mindfulness and lovingkindness, both in meditation and in daily life.</p>
<p><strong>> 3. What happens when you surrender?</strong></p>
<p>There can be long periods of wanting to surrender, but not being able to. There can be periods where we need to let go of some view or habit that&#8217;s holding us back, and when it feels like we&#8217;re just unable to change. But then then suddenly something shifts and the old way of being shatters. Sometimes this is temporary and we experience a shift of consciousness that may last for a few minutes or hours. Other times there&#8217;s a more long-term (possibly permanent) change in the way we see ourselves and the way we see the world.</p>
<p>In letting go there&#8217;s usually a sense of entering a much more profoundly satisfying way of being. We&#8217;ve laid down a burden that sometimes we didn&#8217;t even realize we were carrying. We&#8217;ve broken fetters that were holding us back in ways we couldn&#8217;t have known until we were free of them. And there&#8217;s a sense of joy and fascination with the new way of seeing things. Again, this can be short-lived or long-term.</p>
<p><strong>> 4. What is the Ego or mind? What&#8217;s holding on?</strong></p>
<p>The ego is a set of strategies for finding happiness. The ego attempts to find happiness by keeping at bay things that we think are sources of unhappiness and by clinging to things that we think are sources of happiness. But this strategy is mistaken. It doesn&#8217;t bring us happiness or keep unhappiness at bay because happiness and unhappiness aren&#8217;t inherent in the world around us. They are properties of our mind that are produced by our own actions. And the main sources of our own unhappiness are &#8212; ironically! &#8212; the very aversion and clinging that we think will bring us happiness. </p>
<p>It&#8217;s worth noting that our basic desire for happiness is fine. It&#8217;s not a problem and is actually a good and wholesome thing. It&#8217;s the strategies we adopt in order to find happiness that can be the problem. The question is, do those strategies work? And the ago strategy of clinging and aversion simply doesn&#8217;t work.</p>
<p>Clinging, or holding on, is simply the attempt to stay with those things that we think are sources of happiness. Ultimately this is fruitless because everything changes. If I see a new relationship or a material object as sources of happiness, I&#8217;ll suffer when that relationship or material object change &#8212; as they inevitably will. It&#8217;s not that I can&#8217;t enjoy these things: in fact I&#8217;ll enjoy them more if I don&#8217;t cling to them, because I won&#8217;t be surprised and disappointed when they change.</p>
<p>Where happiness comes from is accepting impermanence. The mind that lets go is a mind that is at ease. It&#8217;s a mind that&#8217;s no longer trying to &#8220;fight&#8221; reality by trying to grasp the ungraspable.</p>
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